I'm not a huge fan of highly bittered IPAs either. That's why my bittering addition is usually around 28-30 IBU. Then I get the rest from fwh, late additions and DH. Generally finishing up in the 65-80 IBU range overall. People who don't like bitter IPAs tend to like mine because they're more focused on aroma and flavor. I get a tab bit more perceived bitterness when I FWH heavily and then bitter to 30 IBU but still not mouth puckering for me. All depends upon the hops variety too.
I had a new belgium voodoo ranger on tap the other night and I couldn't identify the hops but there's something 'cat pea' like in the aroma and acrid in the hop flavor of that beer. I can drink it but it's not a favorite.