Well the first all grain batch is in the primary, thank you to all for the help and suggestions.
It took longer than I thought it would. We did a real slow fly sparge, taking almost an hour to get 7 gal of wort. Measured the mash ph a little while into it and got 5.24 which I guess is ok for an IPA.
Measured the OG with my refractometer and got 1.060, the estimated was 1.064 so I guess I am close enough.
Ended up with a bit under 5 gal into the fermentor so Maybe I should have started with more in the boil. There were about 4 oz of hops added so I guess that sucks up some water as well.
Learned a lot, and can now re- read my Palmer book and maybe understand a little more of it.
Have a few weeks now to get my c02 and keg ready to go.
Ran out of time so the Belgian tripel sitting in the secondary will have to get bottled tomorrow.......
Thank you all again for your guidance, it was a big help!